Why Feeling Alone Was the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me

🟡 The Question That Started It All

Why is it so hard to find people who just don’t want to feel alone anymore?

This wasn’t some line we came up with during a brainstorming session. It was a quiet thought, the kind that hits you at 2AM when everything else is silent. And in that moment, it felt like the only question that mattered.

👦🏽 From Surrounded to Strangely Empty

Growing up in India, I was technically an introvert, but I had no shortage of friends. Between school, neighbors, and childhood connections, I was always around people. Every day brought new plans, new conversations, new noise.

And somewhere in all that noise... I stopped valuing friendship. It became automatic. Background static.

Then I moved to Canada, and the noise disappeared.

😶‍🌫️ The Silence That Hit Hard

I landed in a new country with no familiar faces, no casual hangouts, no “let’s go for chai.” Just silence. I didn’t know who to talk to, where to begin, or if I even had it in me anymore.

For months, I felt isolated. Not just homesick — truly alone. The kind of alone that makes you second-guess everything. I even started therapy because I didn’t recognize the version of myself I was becoming.

One day, mid spiral, I told myself, “That’s enough, Aasees.”
And I meant it.

🗣️ Meeting San (and Myself Again)

So I did the one thing I hadn’t dared to do: I went out and started talking to people.

That’s when I met San, an extrovert with a big heart and a bigger personality. He loved chatting with everyone and somehow made every stranger feel like a friend. He introduced me to his circle, and slowly, that circle became mine too.

For the first time in a long while, I felt like myself again. I had people. I had warmth. I had connection.

And I realized something simple but powerful:

What I’d once lost, I’d just rebuilt.
And I didn’t want to lose it again.

💭 I Wasn’t the Only One

As I opened up to others, I kept hearing versions of the same thing:

“I wish I had someone to hang out with right now.”
“I wish someone would ask me to do something.”

Turns out, this wasn’t just my story. It was everyone’s, in different shapes and sizes.

⏳ When Life Pressed Pause

Just when things started feeling normal, life threw a curveball. As an international student, I hit a situation that forced me to pause everything. I couldn’t study or work legally for four months. It felt like everything came crashing down.

But in that quiet, I found something else.

Teja, who I’d known loosely before, was going through the exact same thing. We started hanging out. Lakshit, who lived in my residence, joined us too.

We didn’t sit around feeling stuck.
We moved. We lived.

Beaches. Paddleboarding. Basketball. Pickleball.
Some days it was just the three of us. Other days, more friends joined in.

We turned downtime into real time.
Time with people who mattered.
And just like that, four months flew by like four days.

⚡ The Spark That Lit the Fire

One night, sitting with my friends, it hit me:

I never want anyone to feel the way I once did.
Not if I can help it.

Because the thing that changed everything for me wasn’t a productivity hack or a mental trick.
It was people.
Connection.
Belonging.

And sure, putting yourself out there is scary. But there are 8 billion people in the world. Someone out there gets you. Someone’s waiting to meet you too.

💛 So That’s Why We’re Building ImpulsTrip

This isn’t just an app.
It’s a way to say:

“Hey. You’re not the only one.”

If you’ve ever felt stuck, alone, or unsure where to begin, this is for you.
If you’ve ever thought “I wish someone would invite me to something”, this is for you.

We’re not promising a perfect life.
But we are building something that helps you find your people, even if it’s just one plan, one laugh, one spontaneous “yes” at a time.

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Join the waitlist. Send this to a friend. Or just save it for the day you need to hear it.
We’re figuring it out as we go, and now, you’re part of the story too.

🟡 With love,
Aasees & the ImpulsTrip crew